The Ugliness of
Low Self Confidence!
By
Dorothy Lafrinere
How fine life would be if we all felt like a million dollars
24 hours a day, 7 days a week! We would never, ever feeling like we have woken
up in a pit, full of self confidence lows, having the energy to just jump out of
bed and meet the day with loads of enthusiasm and knowing that we are going to
get through the day without worries of any kind. The sun will shine all day,
with just enough breeze to keep our bodies cool. Life is good, oh so good.
NOT if you are a person imprisoned by low self confidence, it
so is not. Low self confidence is a very nasty characteristic to have inside us.
It makes us feel weak. It makes us lose faith in our actions and dreams. It can
even stop us from going forward in our lives with relationships. It allows so
many ugly negative thoughts to take hold of our minds. Some will even try to
escape this gripping emotion through the comfort they feel in their eating
patterns. Some begin to trust the emotion that creates mistrust, in order to
derail their thinking, only setting them up for a history of jealous explosions.
We begin to act selfish, constantly thinking that every
action made is directed at us in some negative way or that we are the butt end
of the joke when we see people laughing and happen to be looking our way. We
feel that we are being compared with others. We feel we cannot ever do anything
right. We see negative in every word that is said about us. We want to share our
pain and loneliness, so that everyone around us can feel equally sad. We become
habitual riders on the roller coaster of self-pity. We want to be the only
person in the world with any good qualities. We want our partners to see only us
and desire only us. We want our partners to only have fun when we are around
them. We do not allow ourselves to have fun because we are allowing our selfish
habit of low confidence to stand in our way. Notice all the WE`s in this
paragraph.
Our negative trap is working well, isn`t it? The trap of low
self confidence is what will trigger all the lows in our emotions such as: low
self-esteem, low energy levels, low sexual desires, low positive thinking, low
care in personal hygiene, low desires in life period.
Imagine watching a movie, and in this movie there is a person
trying to get through life struggling with all the WE`s that I have just
described to you. Would you not be thinking, or if you are like me yelling, at
them to STOP? Would you not be thinking of ways to help them? Weird isn`t it?
The person in that movie is you, all you have to do is step outside of yourself,
and your ability to fix all of those WE`s is so simple. We always think that we
look funny in pictures, but when we look at other people in pictures, we do not
criticize them or pick them apart. Well neither does anyone do that to our
picture. We are our worst enemy when we allow low self confidence to take
priority in our minds.
How does one fight this horrible war against ones self?
Habits are a very, very good way. I have done articles on habits many times.
Hmm. Wonder why? Probably because it is through creating positive thinking
habits that we can drowned out the negative stuff that controls are world of
peace and happiness. I am not saying it will happen over night. I am not saying
that it will happen after one time of defeating the negative. What I am saying
is that the more we feel that we are just as special as anyone else in the
world, or ask ourselves, will this issue that is causing me so much pain and
agony mean anything tomorrow? If this is my last day on earth, do I want to
spend it like this? Try to feel like you are all new every morning. Nothing that
happened yesterday will defeat our day today. What may seem so devastating in
that second, really is only because we are allowing it to feel that way.
Changing your track is a very important thing. I don't care what you have to
think about in order to do that, just do it. Think about anything to get your
mind to change. Eventually the your mind will do that on its own. Yes, it's all
habits and only you can do this. This is something you must do for you. Your
self respect will guide you and give you strength. The higher you build your
self confidence, the stronger all of you becomes. Then you will be able to
defeat all of the negative emotions that fight to control your thinking. Do this
for you. It's no different than quiting smoking, exercising, taking care of
yourself, even cosmetic surgery. All of these changes can and should only be
done with your best interest as your goal. No one else really cares in the end.
How you live your life and find happiness is totally up to you, so kick low self
confidence in the BUTT!
I know that if you really want something, you can and will
get it. That's a fact my sweet people! Make the WE syndrome turn into a non
selfish WE. Think of everything and everyone around you as a positive element
that you need to create your positive habits. As I have said so many times: If
only we lived in a perfect world!
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"You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe,
deserve your love and affection."
-Buddha
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"Every day I live I am more convinced that the waste of life
lies in the love we have not given, the powers we have not used, the selfish
prudence that will risk nothing and which, shirking pain, misses happiness as
well."
-Anonymous
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